Another rant

I guess we all have those moments where we realize that we are not as important to someone as they are to us. Or maybe we're just not as important to them at that moment and we mistake it as an all-the-time thing. I had one of those yesterday. About a month ago I sent out an email to my closest (and oldest) friends in the area to find a day when we were all free to hang out, BBQ, catch up. It was very important to me that they all be there, so I scoured the calendars and made sure to get everyones' buy-in... and I thought that they would be just as excited to have a dedicated night to hang out.

Yesterday I sent out an evite and got a few "But that's TKE's Summer Party" or a few people that looked but didn't respond. And I guess (especially since I had planned this a month ago) I was looking for immediate "HELLS YEAH! No place I'd rather be!" (Cathe, you rock. And Naomi too although she's off the grid at the moment :)) As far as TKE's summer party - really? That's more interesting than BBQing with your closest friends? The past few I've been to have not been so great. (But of course, it could be with the right people).

There is a win-win solution to this, I know. Meet in Woo for the party and then come back to the 'Ville for evening festivities. It's just that realization that my idea of an awesome time - hanging out with them - is not unequivocally reciprocated. Makes Beka sad. And it makes me want to avoid future hurt by not putting so much stock in friendships. But that's a crappy way to live life. And to be honest, I doubt they realized how important it was to me, but I'm not going to go around starting emails with an importance level. :)

Comments

  1. Chris and Carla12:05 PM

    I completely feel you with this post.
    Sometimes friends don't realize how important something is to you, and how much it hurts when they don't share your outlook or recognize its importance.
    You'd hope that your friends would never make you feel insignificant... but sometimes they're just too busy with their own life to realize how their actions affect others.

    Insert Gold Rule - Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you.

    Sometimes we just need a wake up call when we're being insensitive.

    BTW - If Chris and I lived closer, we'd be there in a second.

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  2. Birgles McGee2:44 PM

    I also would be there in a second if not for this damned Michigan living!

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  3. Julie, the mama7:19 PM

    If we were there, we would be THERE. We still miss y'all. Can you believe that? After all this time.

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  4. beka7:58 AM

    Aww, you guys rock. I'm sure I'm just as guilty of this friendship slight at times :) Thanks for the love.

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